Praise Science says this action will make you better at work

Praise Science says this action will make you better at workPraise Science says this action will make you better at workWe all enjoy it when someone gives us sincerepraise or commendation. It motivates us, encurages us, andmakes us feel good.When it comes to the workplace, science tells us that an expressionof commendation is more effective than even monetary rewards(in many situations).For example, research organization Gallupsurveyed more than four millionemployeesand found that individuals who receive regular recognition and praiseincrease their individual productivityincrease engagement among their colleaguesare more likely to stay with their organizationreceive higher loyalty and satisfaction scores from customersand have better safety records and fewer accidents on the job.Researchers have also highlighted the benefits of showingappreciation to our spousesandchildren.But heres the question If we know howeffective praisecan be, why dont we do it more often?Losing appreciationIts easy to begin taking for granted the things we previously appreciated.For example, a team leader may be impressed with a new employees work ethic and propensity to go above and beyond. Over time, though, the boss stops giving commendation. Why? Because this schrift of effort becomes the new normal.Why should I praise someone for doing something they should be doing? a mid-level manager for one Fortune 500 company once asked me.How about, so they dont stop doing it?Or even worse, so you dont lose them to someone who shows more appreciation.This principle applies in all areas of life - whether at work, in the family, or in other relationships.How can we cultivate a more appreciative spirit? And how should we make our commendation count?Look for the goodTheres an old saying Familiarity breeds contempt.Unfortunately, that adage may prove true if were not careful. Over time, we tend to become overly critical of those we are closest to. Im not talking aboutconstructive criticism, which is necessary for growth. Rather, its the penchant we have to start concentrating on what a rolle is missing, rather than on what he or she brings to the table.Instead, why not first focus on what a person is doing right? You might start making a list of traits you appreciate in your spouse, child, or colleague - or positive actions those people have taken that benefit your family or team.At times, that also means looking for potential. If you see something that others dont even see in themselves, you help to createself-fulfilling prophecies.Theyll get better- because you believe they can.Dont hold backOnce you cultivate an attitude of appreciation, you need to communicate itClearly. Specifically. Sincerely.Beclearby telling them directly how you feel. Dont leave it up to chance.Bespecificby not only saying that you appreciate them, but also telling themwhatyou appreciate, and why.Besincereby speaking up quickly when you see something good. By praising right away, you can encourage more of that good behavior.How might this look in real life? Heres an exampleHi, can we talk? I know I dont say this enough, but I really appreciate you and everything you do around here. The way you tell them the what, where, and why - the more specific the better. It makes our home/workplace a better place. Im really thankful to have you.Obviously, you have to keep it real. Make it your own, adapt to your circumstances, be sincere. And dont view commendation as a task to be marked off your checklist instead, try to cultivate amindsetof appreciating others- from your family members, to your colleagues, to your office housekeeper.So, what are you waiting for? Go tell someone how much you value them.BecauseJoni Mitchellgot it rightSometimes, you dont know what youve got till its gone.This article originally appeared on LinkedIn.Justin Bariso is a consultant and the author of many works including his forthcoming book, EQ, Applied. In 2016, LinkedIn named him the top voice in Manage ment and Culture.